What is the effing deal?

What is polygamy? In this day and age and location, no one is referring to marrying multiple people, just not being loyal to one person.

So I asked myself:

Are we intended by nature to be loyal to one person?
What is loyalty?
When does a man or a woman realize that they must have only one partner at any given point of time?
Are men incapable of monogamy?
Isn't it man's nature to hunt and conquer?
Is the weaker anatomy of women a natural hindrance put in place to deter population explosion?
Are women given the ability to birth and care to prevent them from leaving immediately after child birth to make other nests?
Is a moral cloak thrown on all of this to ensure that our species propagates according to the grand plan?
We'll never know, will we?

But what does our heart or nether region say about this?
When does the lecture about the institution of marriage and its rules evaporate? Is it when the fucking hot excuse for a colleague smiles at you? Or when you catch a glimpse of a perfect pair of hooters? When do the rules diminish in magnitude and when does the dick take over?
And if these are purely physical reactions, if the 'honey-it-didnt-mean-anything-it-was-just-a-one-off-thing' is to be believed; then why waste expensive lawyers, beautiful children, exquisite house, thousands of dollars and a lifetime of tears on the temporary ramifications of a purely physical organ?

Now women, thats a whole different ball game. The fantasies are all up there...it starts in the mind, develops in the heart (or atleast pretends to) and ends up in the vajayjay. It is the more dangerous kind of reaction. While some women are rational enough to keep it physical, most do not have that kind of control over all three facets of their sexuality. When a woman "cheats", its more dangerous than a man's indiscretions. This could be the reason, society sees it differently. But when a man sleeps around, it is most often a problem because the woman he is married or committed to thinks he is cheating on the same grounds as she would.

Many couples have open marriages now a days. Well, that's a sham if there was one. Most post modern feminists also need that ring and those kids playing inside the picket fence...but why confuse it with the need for fidelity? And what is the whole deal with fidelity that is so silly on paper, but works like a charm on the field?

I am definitely not the first to wonder why people should remain loyal and I most definitely will not be the last. But how does everyone who starts questioning it end up in the same rabbit hole of personal doom?

Here are the steps that lead to nowhere:
1. Mid life crisis
2. Boredom with spouse
3. Looking at options
4. Thinking that a threeway is not cheating because you invited your spouse to the playdate
5. Thinking that wanting something different from spousy here should not imply cheating, right? As long as you have talked it through and understand the rules?
6. Thinking you are way too smart to fall into a trap
7. Going the way every couple that passed step number 2 went - thinking of a threesome, thinking of swinging, a bad orgy that you cannot erase from your memory and one spouse getting more action on the side.
8. Falling in to the trap

And suddenly, it is like, the world you thought you made with your own rules has its own rules. Suddenly, the world has families and mothers and children and divorces. The pretty happy go lucky bang everyone paradise now looks like an impossible dream.
It was so simple in concept...where did you go so fucking wrong? Why does the fact that your son isn't actually your real son bother you so much? If you didnt live by the rules of suburbia when all this started, why start now?

Many have been there before and perished, just the way you are right now. You can see everything going away, just because of one temptation. If everything is so fucking shattered by one small itsy bitsy temptation of getting a boner or giving one, what are we fighting to protect so badly? Is he really yours to play with for life? Is she always going to be there when you come home?

Well I know one thing that will happen if this "moral depravity" is allowed, day time soaps and sunday nights will be erased from television.